About Emotional Abuse: Virtual Murder of the Soul from Dr. Marie-France Hirigoyen

STALKING
THE
EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND THE EROSION OF IDENTITY

Marie-France Hirigoyen

In this groundbreaking account — already an international bestseller — Dr. Marie-France Hirigoyen lays bare the destructive “hidden” phenomenon of emotional abuse. She argues that while emotional abuse is not as visible as physical abuse, it is equally violent — and perhaps even more widespread. It is a crime whose aim is, she says, “a virtual murder of the soul.”

4 thoughts on “About Emotional Abuse: Virtual Murder of the Soul from Dr. Marie-France Hirigoyen

  1. I went through a terrible situation where my husband was both physically and emotionally abusive, He was also a raging alcoholic and a womanizer. He would treat women he liked as if they were gold right in front of my eyes and when they left, it was all because of me. Then the fun began he would punch and kick me in the head, back, stomach with full force blows. Funny thing is I loved this man, and could see no way out at all. I did however see my life flash before my eyes a few times. Finally, a family member stepped in, they didn’t know what I was going through until I opened up, and I don’t know why I protected him. I didn’t go to a woman’s shelter, because I thought for some stupid reason that he would be put in jail. I slept outside in old sheds, and cars with the doors locked while he stood outside calling me every name you can think of. Everything became surreal for me and the neighbors never, ever called the police which made me think they wanted to see the show every time it happened. I couldn’t walk outside the door because of the embarrassment, not to mention I would tremble like a leaf around other people. Finally, with the help of God and what little strength I had left I got away. I never sought counseling, but I did tell my doctor, his help was tremendous and instrumental in my planning my escape. A word to all women in this situation, get out, get out, get out. He will never change, not ever. He will promise never to do it again, but he will trust me. And if you are thinking why didn’t I tell a friend, well I didn’t have any. This guy was very popular and very intelligent, people just didn’t know him like I did. I am alone now but my mind and body are in tact. Took a while but I am at least functional to a degree. Look for the signs ladies, you will see them right away and don’t ignore your gut. Go to the police, use the shelters and let people know what is happening to you. If you feel stuck, which you will, find that inner strength and get the hell out.
    “A virtual murder of the soul.” Wow, that says it all.

    1. Just reading Lenore E. Walker´s book: The Battered Woman
      getting Your letter now.
      As I learned a battered women (psych./physic.) is living
      like a child in an abusing home.
      ONE PART of the Family reigns brutally over the Family,
      picking out of the familiy for extrem violence.
      Woman, Child …
      It is a “Magic” Situation: The ABUSER Shows himself as
      a strong, careful, “wise” man – and finally the beaten
      Family gets somehow in “double-thinking”:
      If all People say that my husband, my father,…
      is such a good Person, caring for us, then WHO IS RIGHT?
      MY experiences of the experience of others`?
      Battered woman so often put their whole power into
      building up an “outer Picture”: of their Family, of
      their husband,…And they begin to COVER the
      FACTS and to TAKE CARE for husband´s well-being:

      A battered women, an abused child, has/have to learn one lessong:
      I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE LOVED
      Abuser are telling massively LIES about and to their victims!
      This poisons the Soul of the victim.
      Slowly, slowly the THINKING of the Abuser takes place
      in the Soul of his victim…

      Be strong, Anonymous, never defend even a Little bit of your “man” –
      he is a MINUS-MAN and he never, never would Change.
      (Narcism).
      Yes, he is for sure sometimes very unlucky, but not about
      his horrible behaviour, no, only because of self-pitty.

      Excuse my harsh words
      Annamaria

    2. Just reading Lenore E. Walker´s book: The Battered Woman
      getting Your letter now.
      As I learned a battered women (psych./physic.) is living
      like a child in an abusing home.
      ONE PART of the Family reigns brutally over the Family,
      picking out of the familiy for extrem violence.
      Woman, Child …
      It is a “Magic” Situation: The ABUSER Shows himself as
      a strong, careful, “wise” man – and finally the beaten
      Family gets somehow in “double-thinking”:
      If all People say that my husband, my father,…
      is such a good Person, caring for us, then WHO IS RIGHT?
      MY experiences of the experience of others`?
      Battered woman so often put their whole power into
      building up an “outer Picture”: of their Family, of
      their husband,…And they begin to COVER the
      FACTS and to TAKE CARE for husband´s well-being:

      A battered women, an abused child, has/have to learn one lessong:
      I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE LOVED
      Abuser are telling massively LIES about and to their victims!
      This poisons the Soul of the victim.
      Slowly, slowly the THINKING of the Abuser takes place
      in the Soul of his victim…

      Be strong, Anonymous, never defend even a Little bit of your “man” –
      he is a MINUS-MAN and he never, never would Change.
      (Narcism).
      Yes, he is for sure sometimes very unlucky, but not about
      his horrible behaviour, no, only because of self-pitty.

      Excuse my harsh words
      Annamaria

    3. Just reading Lenore E. Walker´s book: The Battered Woman
      getting Your letter now.
      As I learned a battered women (psych./physic.) is living
      like a child in an abusing home.
      ONE PART of the Family reigns brutally over the Family,
      picking out of the familiy for extrem violence.
      Woman, Child …
      It is a “Magic” Situation: The ABUSER Shows himself as
      a strong, careful, “wise” man – and finally the beaten
      Family gets somehow in “double-thinking”:
      If all People say that my husband, my father,…
      is such a good Person, caring for us, then WHO IS RIGHT?
      MY experiences of the experience of others`?
      Battered woman so often put their whole power into
      building up an “outer Picture”: of their Family, of
      their husband,…And they begin to COVER the
      FACTS and to TAKE CARE for husband´s well-being:

      A battered women, an abused child, has/have to learn one lessong:
      I HAVE THE RIGHT TO BE LOVED
      Abuser are telling massively LIES about and to their victims!
      This poisons the Soul of the victim.
      Slowly, slowly the THINKING of the Abuser takes place
      in the Soul of his victim…

      Be strong, Anonymous, never defend even a Little bit of your “man” –
      he is a MINUS-MAN and he never, never would Change.
      (Narcism).
      Yes, he is for sure sometimes very unlucky, but not about
      his horrible behaviour, no, only because of self-pitty.

      Excuse my harsh words
      Annamaria

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